Anxiety Part Three: Pleasant person pleasing people

We all have a life that we dream of living, sooner than later. You and I have dreams. There is a certain way in which we would love our families to be. Though some things are not in our control, however, we still wish to influence certain decisions around our families and to a certain extent our friends too. After all, these are the people that we love and care about, and we want the best for them.

Because we care for these individuals that we were either born into the same families with or whether we willingly brought them into our spaces, we may always feel the need to carry and help them when the need arises and this because we want the best for them.

“Carry each other’s burdens”

I have often asked, to what extent does carrying each other’s burdens go? What does it mean to carry each other’s burdens? Each of us will have a different response to those two questions and that’s is perfectly fine, because we all perceive life differently and we are wired differently.

There are those of us that do certain things out of guilt, and not free will. We need to be perfectly aligned with our beliefs that all we do is not off-balanced. Have you engaged in an activity that you did not want to do however you found yourself doing exactly what you did not want to do on the bases that you wanted to make those around you happy and accommodated, and that has at times happened at the expense of your inner peace? It is always good and encouraged that we be good-hearted people and be considerate, have we thought of what does that mean for you and I?

“You are the best thing that has ever happened to you, take care of you. Without you, there is no you” – Itumeleng

You and I need to learn to take care of ourselves, however way this means for both you and I. There are times when we will need to say NO, I am unable to do that for you, and this does make either of us look bad, when we genuinely are unable to come to the party.

Let’s both consider the times when we have let other people run a mark, even though we did not approve of it, we still allowed it, so the other people in our lives could be happy and this could have happened at the expense of our peace.

How can we both identify when we are being a people’s pleaser? What does being a people’s pleaser mean to both of us individually? What makes it difficult for us to say no more especially when we do not approve of something? What is it about saying NO do we shy away from?

Maybe saying No at times is what we need to avoid being anxious about certain elements of our lives.

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